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Whenever I imagine my truest self, I picture someone who overthinks a lot, cries when happy and cries when sad.

This reminds me of when one of our docs shouted at me with dets we spare to share. I cried so much and hardly convinced myself that, it shouldn’t affect me anymore considering I’m doing nursing for a decade already.

Being highly sensitive is my trait and it is my weakness as much as my strength. Weakness in the sense that I often put others demands first before mine and ends up saying yes all the time and no matter how hard I try to put up boundaries, they are still being crossed. In the case of the latter, it is my gentle power, I can deeply analyze everything and I can feel what you feel. It might not be 100% accurate, but I’m pretty sure I will know. I might don’t have steel elbows but I keep the condition balance for the people who say no and outspoken.

There are so many instances that I am told to toughen up, you’re an adult, be a b*, say no, etc etc. Those pieces of advice in addition to being too emotional made me think something is wrong with me. Then I started reading about it to understand it better. Of course, the world is still painful sometimes. But I don’t believe you need to be sensitive to care.

I am essentially born to be mild and would love to take your hand to make the world gentler.

1. You have wrinkles but it’s okay.
2. Don’t compare YOUR success to someone else’s OWN definition of success.
3. Turn your panic into prayers.
4. Stop chasing after people for you don’t need to chase what belongs to you.
5. Always go for quality over quantity. Be it physical things, people or relationships.
6. You will take care of yourself first before you can take care of others. You can’t give what you don’t have.
7. Follow what feels good.
8. Invest on memories not on things.
9. It’s not all about you, don’t always take things personally.
10. Don’t lower your standards, instead wait for someone to rise up for it.
11. Money or things will not solve your real problems.
12. There’s an advantage in not knowing.
13. Perspective is a beautiful thing.
14. Perfectionism is a mask that we all wear when we are afraid of failure.
15. Sometimes it is better to fall asleep in pain than to fall asleep knowing that you were the cause of someone else’s pain.
16. You can be in the worst position possible but you’ll figure it out.
17. Happy whole people are drawn to happy whole people. 
18. Try not to please everyone.
19. The world changes with your example not your opinion.
20. People may talk bad about you, crash you, and walk over you but you will always keep your value.
21. The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven or hell.
22. When you love, you love hard. If you don’t get it back, there’s nothing wrong with you.
23. Judgement is but a mirror that reflects the insecurities of the person who’s doing the judging.
24. Your values determine the nature of your problems and your problems determine the quality of your life.
25. Keep things private until you know it’s permanent.
26. Seek what sets your soul on fire.
27. Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.
28. Other people’s opinions do not define you. You do you.
29. Your life experiences mattered in equal measures in making you a better YOU.
30. Eat your veggies, be kind to animals, and use less plastic.
31. Always have a safe space.
32. It is your sensitivity to others’ wrongful treatment that stops you from treating others wrongly.
33. Be kind with a spine!

Had an impromptu life-lessons-exchange with Jam and Kim. They are not 33 though so 80% of what they are saying they don’t know yet.

Read about my 31 Gifts of Gratitude to my 31 Year Old Self and 30 Things I Learned at 30 through these links.

Hope this adds value.

Love,

Jinky xx