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EXPERIENCE LEVEL: 34

Howdy! Let us get personal.

I felt sedentary in 2021. Last year was a bit weighty. I wanted healing, newness, change, and growth and nothing worked. We were living in a much strange way of interacting with life. For me, it led to a withdrawal of old, unhealthy habits.

I recently just turned 34. I promised myself for the upcoming days to embrace newness every single day. I will explore a new dimension of my existence within the confines of my boundaries. I know it will be hard to get away from this rigid idea of myself or remain within any walls that exist only in my head. Every day will be an option to live in a way that feels good, to be doing things that align with what I value most.

To anyone reading this: If you long for transformation, start small. Maybe instead of buying your hard-boiled egg, boil your own. If you are just trying to get through today, have a shower and sleep. The world and your issues can wait. Trying something new does not have to be some complicated and stern thing.

To my gallant queens: Happy International Women’s Day! Be the nurturers, the soothers, and the steadier of rocked boats that you are. BUT minimise pleasing and placating the world as if your lives depended on it.

Sending virtual hugs your way,

Jinky

READ WITH ME: 2022 READING LIST

Reading is an incredible tool to help us grow, reframe our thinking by learning new things and sometimes transports us to a whole new world. I started to like reading first a few years back to improve my English writing and grammar. Today, I opted to read more if I want to know about anything that interests me.  

This list is not a crazy goal of how many books I can read in a year, but merely the list to follow through. 

I hope any of these will spark interest in you. 

Happy reading!

  1. IKIGAI The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life – currently reading
  2. Myths of Happiness
  3. Life Lessons from a Brain Surgeon 
  4. It Ends with Us 
  5. Tiny Beautiful Things 
  6. The Only Street in Paris 
  7. Influence, The Psychology of Persuasion 
  8. Public Speaking for Success, Dale Carnegie 
  9. What Everybody Is Saying by Jose Navarro 
  10. The Influential Mind 
  11. Quit 
  12. The Artist’s Way 
  13. The Dance of Anger
  14. Invisible Women 
  15. #futureboards 
  16. Such A Fun Age by Kiley Reid 
  17. 3 Women by Lisa Taddeo 
  18. For One More Day; The Atomic of Habits 
  19. Soulful Simplicity 
  20. The Mighty Thor by Jason Aaron 
  21. The Good and Beautiful God 
  22. I’m Not Your Baby Mother 
  23. Woman Code 
  24. The Joy of Less 
  25. Essentialism 
  26. The Power of How 
  27. The Story of my Experiments with Truth 
  28. Project 333
  29. You can Heal your Life 
  30. Demian by Hermann Hesse 

RESOLUTIONS FOR THE NEW YEAR: 7 THINGS TO SIMPLIFY THIS YEAR

As we recenter ourselves for 2022, here are seven things you can simplify to hit this new year strong. Most of which I am doing myself and I think you guys can benefit from these as well. Enjoy reading!

1. Your Wardrobe. Buy less, choose well and re-wear. 

2. Your Words. Keep your words plain and honest even if it means you have to speak less. Mean what you say. 

3. Your Material Possessions. Keep what is essential, let go of non-essential. If it doesn’t hold a value it’s clutter, accumulating dust and taking up your time maintaining it.  

4. Your Diet. Know what you need. Have a default meal when you feel like skipping a meal. Avoid junk foods. They are junk. Really. 

5. Your Screen Time. Don’t overshare in social media. Have a bit of privacy. Coming from me? Trust me at this stage, I’ve gotten better. Truly. 

6. Your Time Commitments. If you would rather sleep than do what was asked for, go for it. Don’t waste your time doing something to fit in and compromise what you value. 

7. Your Goals. Choose one at a time and do it well. Don’t multi-task because it lowers productivity. I am a nurse and getting paid to multi-task. You can believe me. 

THE LAST 30 DAYS IN A PHOTO DUMP

The last 30 days was a pure act of self-care. Went for multiple rounds of decluttering physical things, digital and mental. My main goal for taking a break is to ground me or to calm me for the past 12 months was violent so to speak. And that I am truly grateful for the opportunity to reflect on so many things going on around me and within myself.

I slept for a total of 15 days (I’d like to think), permitted myself to just be lazy, ate whatever I wanted, and binge-watched TED Talks and TV series.

I also reformed old habits that for some reason I have forgotten. One is being selective about what I should spend my time doing or thinking. I have forgotten how cosy it feels to be present and never worry about anything you don’t have control over i.e., the past, the future, and other people’s beliefs, thoughts and feelings. Another habit is being able to shake off any negative vibrations coming along when you have to deal with people and react only if you absolutely need to.

As tomorrow slowly unfolds, I vow to live each day intentionally. To continue to be a wild, cool, and complex person but with less anxiety. LOL.

The major takeaway is the realisation of how important rest truly is.

Sending virtual hugs your way,

Jinky


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WHY IT ROCKS TO BE SENSITIVE

Whenever I imagine my truest self, I picture someone who overthinks a lot, cries when happy and cries when sad.

This reminds me of when one of our docs shouted at me with dets we spare to share. I cried so much and hardly convinced myself that, it shouldn’t affect me anymore considering I’m doing nursing for a decade already.

Being highly sensitive is my trait and it is my weakness as much as my strength. Weakness in the sense that I often put others demands first before mine and ends up saying yes all the time and no matter how hard I try to put up boundaries, they are still being crossed. In the case of the latter, it is my gentle power, I can deeply analyze everything and I can feel what you feel. It might not be 100% accurate, but I’m pretty sure I will know. I might don’t have steel elbows but I keep the condition balance for the people who say no and outspoken.

There are so many instances that I am told to toughen up, you’re an adult, be a b*, say no, etc etc. Those pieces of advice in addition to being too emotional made me think something is wrong with me. Then I started reading about it to understand it better. Of course, the world is still painful sometimes. But I don’t believe you need to be sensitive to care.

I am essentially born to be mild and would love to take your hand to make the world gentler.