I came up with the idea of this blog post when I was sorting through my stuff this morning. For a couple of weeks now I have been experiencing a lot of pressure and stress over everything- personal related and work related circumstances. Seems like my mind is going to explode with all the things that I feel like I need to think about. However, I have realised that no matter how uneasy things are and how they left me drained and knackered, I still managed to get it done and happened to turn it just the way I wanted. Adulting can be overwhelming, seriously, with all the responsibilities you have to deal with on your own not to mention the choices and decision makings you have to make every freaking day. But my mindset is, always do your absolute best and don’t be discouraged if anything doesn’t happen the way you want it to happen. Plan and act everything in good faith and let tomorrow worry for tomorrow. I’ll share with you the ways that work best for me everytime I found myself overthinking.

1. HAVING A TO-DO LIST

Writing down your thoughts is so helpful in de-cluttering your mind. Make the famous to-do list and I can assure you, you will feel so much better especially when you cross out what’s done. Having a to-do list also assures you that you won’t forget anything and nothing will be left undone. Place it somewhere you can always see and it will also serve as a reminder of the things you need to get into, either for the day or for the week. So, there no reason to keep re-thinking about it because you got it sorted (sort of).

2. PRIORITISE

This is where you can organise the things that need immediate attention and the things that aren’t. Of course, carry out and think only the things that you need to do at the present moment and not for the next 6 months or a year. One thing in front of the other, one by one, that’s the way it’s gonna work. Unless you can multi-task but again not to the extent that you’re exhausting your mind over the things that aren’t necessarily be happening today.

3. AVOID DRAMA or CONFLICT

I’m well aware that conflict sometimes is inevitable especially with all the differences we have in culture and viewpoint, but we can definitely try to avoid it. I bet you have seen someone you know who likes to complain just about everything they can possibly see or dealt with, because I have, and that my friend is a nightmare! Containing what you feel hearing them and keeping your cool take a tons of efforts. But you have to keep it together because it’s not worth it, they don’t deserve your reaction and do not even dignify it with a response. Ignore them and don’t let them disturb your inner peace. There’s nothing more pleasant than having a peaceful sleep and wake up the next morning worry free because you know you wronged no one or you hassled no one. I’m sure you all have heard the quote ‘less talk, less mistake’. Now, don’t get me wrong, it is as important as expressing how you feel and what your thoughts are, but you have to consider the situation and anticipate the response you might be getting. Are you gonna be helpful or are you just saying things so it’ll be known that you have a say on something? Believe me, you don’t need to give a comment on everything especially if that isn’t inspiring and also because somehow nowadays, people get easily offended by the things you said that weren’t what they think you meant. Walk away from this kind of people they aren’t healthy to be around.

4. VALIDATE

Seek answers for the things that bother you. Your questions can’t be attended unless you actually seek for probable reasons. Things that you have doubt on and keep hunting you will get you thinking about it over and over again. If you have issues with someone and experiencing the so-called ‘inevitable conflict’ you have to work on it and resolve it before it can lead to further conflict. Validating any kind of feels can set your mind free but don’t rationalise things base on your assumptions that’s too risky, to be honest.

5. CELEBRATE

The last but by no means least, celebrate. There are bajillion things to celebrate, folks. Look around and you’ll see. I can’t enumerate them all in here but personally, my fave is taking a walk, I know this may seem like the most normal thing to do but it is relaxing for me. Taking your mind off things and the fact that you are able to take a break, that is indeed a celebration. In addition, I would binge watch a new tv series or read a fiction book over coffee. These are small gestures that you can reward yourself because you have accomplished something or because you are up to date on your to-do list. Only if you do the things I have mentioned. No matter what kind of relaxations you may have, appropriate and not illegal of course, whatever suits your taste, you do that.

The state of our mind can affect our actions and our entire well being. We are the one managing our mind not the other way around. We have a choice on what to feed our minds with, and that is already a victory. Mental health is as important as physical health, with all those greens and weight lifting you’re doing. Basically the same.

Thank you for stopping by, I hope you found this helpful! ♥